I found out that I was pregnant during the last week of high school, and I became a parent at the age of 19. My son's father was my best friend, but when we found out that I was pregnant, he claimed that he just wasn't ready.
The last time that my son saw his father was at the age of 1. His father then disappeared out of our lives, and has had 1 conversation with his son since (2 years ago).
A couple of months ago I needed to speak with his father regarding our son and sent him a text...no reply. He hadn't replied to any texts in months.
So, I went to Google. I thought maybe I had the wrong number for him and perhaps a Google search could pull up something...
There, I found listed a bunch of names...most I recognized as his family members...but one stood out.
A woman's name. One I hadn't seen before. I then typed this name into Facebook to see who she was, and what happened next left me absolutely flabbergasted.
This woman is in fact the WIFE of my son's father...and guess what?! They have a 4 YEAR OLD DAUGHTER!
My heart SANK for my son. He has cried himself to sleep so many times asking about his father and wanting him in his life, and there he is...raising his daughter, but having nothing to do with his son.
How can I explain this to him? How do I explain that his sister gets a dad, but he doesn't? How do I explain to a 7 year old that there is nothing wrong with him and that his dad is just a dick?...Answer? You don't. You just try to love your child enough for two parents and pray that one day the other parent steps up.
I contacted the woman and asked her to have my son's father contact me.
She didn't know about my son.
SHE. DIDN'T. KNOW.
They are married and have a child, and she didn't even know that he has a 7 year old son?!
I was livid. And I can't even imagine how she must have felt...but how dare he pretend that M doesn't exist!
But guess who replied to my text soon after? (guess I did have the right number)
Yeah...let's just say that my son's father was not too thrilled about her finding out. BUT on the brightside, he said that he MIGHT see my son in NOVEMBER. What's another few months when you haven't seen your kid in 6 years, am I right?
For the record, he lives 45min. away, but his wife needs time to 'deal' with the information *eye roll*.
I really hope that he will make an effort to be in our son's life. He really is an amazing kid, and he deserves so much better. & I have been super chill for 7 years...not sure why he treats us this way.
Thanks for reading! Wouldn't wish my soap opera life on any of you! lol